Most professional blogs keep up a tidy fiction: that the person writing is only a job title. No school runs, no half-finished projects discovered at 9pm, no parent-teacher meeting scheduled right on top of a deadline. Mine won't.
For eighteen years of deep technical work — and now, building INUK full-time while doing an Executive MBA — there has been a second shift waiting at home. Two boys, thirteen and nine. Their studies, their school calendar, the assignment that's apparently due tomorrow and was mentioned for the first time tonight.
I don't experience my career and my family as two separate ledgers. They run on the same twenty-four hours, draw on the same patience, and teach each other more than I expected. Debugging a stubborn release and untangling a stuck maths problem at the kitchen table are not as different as they sound.
What this section is for
- The honest mechanics of balance — not the glossy kind, the real kind, where something gives and you decide what on purpose.
- What raising two kids while building a career actually costs, and what it quietly gives back.
- The small, sustaining things outside work that turn out to be the reason the work is possible at all.
I'm not here to sell "having it all." I'm here to write the truer version — that a life and a career are not separate accounts, and the most interesting parts are usually where they overlap. The boys are a big part of why I'm building anything at all.